If you were to cheat, would you do it like this ?

If I where trying to make sure the person I was having sex with on the side was under my complete control - then I would see this person every day and would make sure they worked with me so they would not lead astray, have to rely on me and do as they where told. If I cared for a person I was having sex with, then they would be the only one in my life, free to come and go as they please and would not be working with me. When I cheated - I made sure it was 30 miles away from my house and place of employment. There would be no emotional attachment, would be a friends with benefits arrangement. Getting feelings involved with another person while your still married defeats the purpose of cheating. I Cheated as a way of venting, getting my aggression out and realizing how amazing my spouse really is - and in some cases.. wasn't. When it was a wasn't situation, I divorced him. Having 2 partners gets complicated, unless they both know about eachother and are okay with it. Then you have your cake and are eating eat too... Don't be okay with it and he will be foreced to choose you or her